Is making choices really that hard?

My whole life I have it difficult with making choices. I always think by myself what is the right thing to do or what does others want me to do. But is that right? Are their good and bad choices? 

Personally I don’t think there are good and bad choices. There are only choices you make. If they are bad or not it’s how you deal with the consequences of your choice.

For example, you go to the shop and your loved one says to you to bring him something to drink. You know the things he loves but you only need to bring one thing. Their is the stress. What does he really wants to drink right now. You’re standing there for about 5 minutes and can’t decide what to take. You really need to bring something home. You think and think and then you take one thing. When your home you give his drink to him and then you see his reaction. Most of the time it’s the right thing you took. It’s something to drink like he asked and he loves it too. So where is this stress coming from? 

I think it’s just your mind. It’s saying the whole time that you can’t make a bad decision. Like I said before there isn’t a bad decision. If their goes something wrong because of the decision you made you need to deal with the consequences. When you learn this then maybe you will look different at the choices you’re making. 

I’m not saying that I personally already can deal with the consequences of my choices. I’m still learning. But every day I’m accepting my decisions more and more. 
 

A few months ago it’s was difficult for me to say what I really wanted to eat that evening or during the week. When I was in the supermarket I frooze. I didn’t know what I needed to take. Making a list at home gave me a more safety feeling. I just took what I wrote down. After a while I learned going to the shop without a list and miraculously I knew what I needed to take and I could make choices. 

Just some ridiculous and easy decisions were difficult for me. Even what I would wear that day or which pair of shoes I would take were hard for me. It gave me a lot of stress. Inside and out. I didn’t like it. Dealing with stress every day because of some decisions I needed to make. Why? I’m someone who really wants to do more then my very best. I want to be perfect and also in making decisions. I never wanted to make mistakes and making bad decisions. Now I know that there aren’t bad decisions. It’s how I can handle everything once I took my decision. 

Little by little I’m learning all these things. And I hope I can inspire you to think the same. 

Toinon